I believe that this site was created with good intentions. Social media at its best, right? Just like we do for companies — rating them good, bad, or somewhere in the middle. This one is for women to talk about guys they’ve dated. The problem is the negative spin they put on it:
“If a guy you went out with was a cad, rude, immature or even something more serious – share this knowledge with other women, post a quick or long review on him here. It’s anonymous and free. Consider it a sort of public service for the dating woman!”
Clearly this was created by someone who wanted to create a venue for her scornful thoughts, but why not encourage women to rate positive dating experiences through the same forum? Is it somehow less relevant? Are the good ones swept up so quickly that it’s not worth sharing? Or is it expected that a personal relationship can only end poorly?
Some things really do need to be resolved out of the public eye, and this might be one of them. If a guy is less than criminal, I’m not sure I see the value in putting this kind of information out there. It’s inherently emotionally charged and bias, offering limited commenting from the guy in his defense. If he did manage to find the review and cared enough to post, I imagine he would be burned at the stake by the site regulars. To the extent that this site exists to commiserate and share experiences that can be laughed about in retrospect, I commend it. But that seems to be the minority of the posts.
I also find it odd that there are no last names submitted. Not only does the make the information fairly hard to match up to a real person, it is highly prone to error. That is to say, it would be pretty easy to ascribe what’s written here to the wrong guy a woman meets at a bar. “Gerry you say? Oh, I’ve heard of you…”
Where do we draw the line? Why not apply what works for consumers and corporations to personal relationships? It’s all pretty innocent, in the end, and may just provide a useful tool to relieve some of the inevitable hard feelings one has after a break-up.
Will the channels one day become so flooded that all the benefit is removed? Imagine if SPAM had managed to make email unusable. This may still happen. But if the legitimate forums for consumer feedback become overridden with tripe, I fear the gains seen in recent years will be undone.